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September 12, 2017

Robert Carter / James Glasgow ~ An RK Friend Is Gone


I have only recently learned of the death of our good online friend:
James_Glasgow in Renaissance Kingdoms. The man was known to the real world as Robert Carter, and I considered him my good friend. He had struggled with cancer for years, but never did he let on to me when he was feeling weak or sick. I actually thought he had beat it, because he told me last year that he was doing really well. So, I was hit with a rather large hammer when I read his son's post that he had passed in April.


Robert's family says that he was "determined" to beat it. To me, he always told me he was feeling "great". He would much prefer to sit and talk to you about the weather . . . anything to avoid complaining about himself.



Personally I've known Robert for around 8 years. In 2009, he joined Renaissance Kingdoms in Scotland. His game name then was Remus Dunbar. After some time in the game he changed his name to the one we are most familiar with: James_Glasgow. Back then I was living as Serendipity. He lived with me and many others in a wonderful county of Ayr, Scotland. He was a very active and participating member of our community. He was the one person who was so kind and honest to me that I decided to stay in touch with some of the people of Ayr. That time was rough for me. He was probably the single most person who kept me in RK. Upon my suggestion, when Ayr fell, James ended up in Penrith, England. He was the most reliable person in Penrith, other citizens have said. He made so many axes that I bet we could never count them all.  Over time, I continued to check on his progress after he made landfall in England. He was glad to hear that I was next door in Egremont.


We always had a kinship, and we both joined the family De Grey. That's when we began to talk more often. I knew him best as my RK cousin. Later he was an RP partner, and then later a good friend. We spoke on Skype and Facebook often enough. We liked talking about silly RK politics and he would listen to me gossip. He enjoyed it. The last few years were when we spoke the most in real life. He regaled me with stories of his real life adventures, stories of his kids and all the travels that he was doing. He was always curious about my real life, my struggle and my travels. I think he lived vicariously though me and his other friends.


Did you know that Robert was deaf? Probably not, because he never complained. He was always so sweet to me, and kind and polite and proper to everyone. Even when I hurt him, he came back at me with compassion and love.  I truly believe he was so generous that he would give most the shirt off his back. His humility also knew no bounds. When I praised him he would never accept it. He would instead throw some compliment back at you. Truly, he was a good man, and someone that I looked forward to hearing from. Always.


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I regret not talking to him more than I did in the last year. We had a disagreement in 2015. It was the only one we ever had, and it was right before I changed my RK character. I was going through a rough time in game, and in my own life, trying to find myself once again after life had handed me a bunch of terrible playing cards. The funny part is that I was leaning on him, instead of him leaning on me, while the man was battling cancer? He rarely spoke to me about any discomfort or upset. He was just always curious to hear about my life. Now, I wish I had listened a little bit more.


He'd gone missing earlier this year. I thought he was fine, because I had spoken to him on April 2nd. I reminded myself to catch up with him again soon, but a few months ago I was in Penrith, so I started trying to get a hold of him. He didn't respond to any messages after that date, but I had no way of knowing that he was gone. I mailed him at least 5 times in the last few months especially, wondering where he'd gone to. I had no idea that he had passed and upon hearing about it today.  I will say that I am beating myself up that I missed spending time with him. Even one more discussion before he passed would have helped us both. Still, I was honored to have known him, and he truly did touch my life. I hope he knew that I loved him. I think he did. Still, I wish I'd told him more often.

Rest in Peace, Robert. We'll never forget you.

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Robert's family had no insurance. He wasn't insurable. If you have any ability to help his family with his medical bills and funeral cost, they would really appreciate it.  His three sons are all under the age of 23, so they've taken it hard. Mourning is important to the human spirit.If you would like to leave a memory or an inspirational message about him as James or Robert, please do! You can leave it in the comments here or on his memorial YouCaring page:

http://www.youcaring.com/robertschilldren-947536







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